What Are The 7 Types of Love?

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The notion of love is actually quite complex.  We can love someone in the romantic sense and go on to marry and make a life with them.  We can love a child unconditionally with our entire sense of self.  We can love a parent or a best friend, but in a very different way than we love our significant other.  We can show love and compassion for others.  We need to figure out what self love means before anything else.  Commenting that we love pancakes has a very different connotation when we utter “I love you” for the first time. 

Interestingly enough, the solitary word “love” is somehow supposed to encompass all of these emotions and feelings.  Perhaps society has taught us to distinguish the various types and degrees of love based on connotations, nuances, or experiences.  In contrast, philosophers in ancient Greece made the concept more concrete by breaking it down into various categories.  Ancient Greek philosophers came up with seven types of love, as follows.

1)Eros: Love of the body 

This type of love illustrates sexual attraction, physical desire towards others, and a lack of control.  It is powerful, passionate, and can dissipate quickly.  Relationships that are built solely on Eros love tend to be short-lived. 

2)Philia: Affectionate love-

Philia love accounts for the type of love that you feel for parents, siblings, family members, and close friends.  This type of love is linked with loyalty, compaionship, and trust.  Philia love is shared amongst those who have similar values and experiences.  The Greek philosophers considered Philia to be an equal love and valued it higher than Eros love.

3)Storge: Love of the Child

This type of love describes the unconditional love that parents have for their children.  It is defined by unconditional approval, acceptance, and sacrifice.  This type of love helps a child to develop through attachment, encouragement, and security.

4)Agape: Selfless Love

Agape love is representative of universal love.  Greek philosophers felt that this is the type of love that people feel for other humans, for nature, and for a higher power.  This love can be most easily expressed through meditation, nature, intuition, and spirituality.  Agape love can be used interchangeably for charity and care for others.

5)Ludus: Playful Love

Playful love is defined by flirtatiousness, seduction, and sex without commitment.  The focal point of this love is on the experience rather than attraction or feelings.  Ludus is evident in the beginning of a relationship and is comprised with elements of play, teasing, and excitement.

6)Pragma: Long-lasting Love

Long-lasting love is evident in couples who have been together for a long period of time.  This type of love continues to develop throughout the years and portrays synchronization and balance.  This type of love can only survive with constant maintenance and nurturance.

7)Philautia: Love of the Self

Self-love is linked with confidence and self-worth and is necessary for a sense of purpose and fitting in.  Philautia can be unhealthy and linked to narcissistic behaviors and arrogance, or can be healthy in the sense that we love ourselves before we learn how to love others.  Greek philosophers believed that true happiness could only be achieved when one had unconditional love for themselves. 

Perhaps we do not break down the concept of love like the ancient Greek philosophers once did.  Admittedly, it would likely be very complicated to incorporate these Greek terms into our day to day conversations.  However, there are bits and pieces and truths from each one that help to comprise our notion of love today.  It is interesting to wonder if we would have more understanding or respect for emotional, sexual, or physical intimacy if we broke it down into smaller concepts.