Can Online Marriage Counseling Prevent Divorce

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People seek marriage counseling for a variety of reasons: infidelity, communication problems, and lack of intimacy, to name a few. Those that opt for online marriage counseling typically do so with the same motivations as those that prefer the in-person alternatives but prefer the added convenience and cost savings associated with online sessions.

Whatever the reason, what is clear is that most of these people want to strengthen their marriage and prevent problems from escalating. Unfortunately, many couples approach counseling as a last-ditch effort to save their marriage. It begs the question: does marriage counseling, and more specifically its modern-day digital version, online marriage therapy, prevent divorce?

Why Seek Marriage Counseling Online?

First, we need to discuss why one might seek online marriage counseling versus traditional in-person therapy. One of the most difficult parts of face-to-face marriage therapy is getting three people with different schedules in a room at the same time. That frequently causes interrupted and inconsistent treatment schedules.

Online counseling for couples, on the other hand, offers unmatched flexibility. It allows the consistent scheduling of sessions, something that is integral to treatment success. In addition, depending on the platform, therapists may be available for daily consultation as problems arise. Further, having sessions from the comfort of one’s home often creates a more inviting environment to talk about difficult issues. Couples can also continue to talk about the session after it ends since they don’t have to zip off in their cars to go somewhere else.

What Prevents Online Marriage Counseling From Being Successful?

Before we look at the advantages of online marriage counseling, let’s explore several factors that get in the way of effective marital therapy:

  • Waiting Too Long- Famed couples researcher John Gottman reports that the average couple goes through six years of marital difficulties before they seek marriage counseling. By that time, problems may be too entrenched to work out. As a rule, the earlier you seek counseling for marital problems the better.
  • Lack of Motivation- An all too familiar scenario is one member of a couple dragging their significant other into marriage counseling. One person is motivated, the other is not. A marriage is a relationship between two people. Marital therapy cannot succeed if only one member of the couple is motivated to make a change.
  • One Person Wants Out- Sometimes the reason one member of a couple is unmotivated is that they have already decided they want to end the marriage. They enter into marriage counseling in the hope that they can disclose their true feelings and work through issues related to separation and divorce. Although marriage counseling aims to improve a marriage, it can also serve another valuable function: dissolve the marriage in the smoothest way possible. While that won’t prevent divorce, it will assist the couple and their family in working through a very difficult situation.
  • Abuse and Addiction Issues- A marriage counselor can only do so much. If there are addiction and abuse issues related to marital strife, then those issues need to first be individually addressed before marital counseling can be effective. In certain cases, it may be more advisable for the couple to separate than remain together.

How Online Marriage Counseling Can Help a Marriage

Surprisingly, there is little research on the direct effect of marriage counseling on divorce rates but what exists is encouraging. What is plentiful, however, is research that supports how counseling can help improve factors that are important to a healthy marriage. Generally, marriage counseling has been found to increase marital satisfaction in 70 percent of couples. And let’s face it, people that are satisfied in their marriage do not get a divorce.

Emotional focused couples therapy, a popular form of couples counseling, has been shown to increase many types of intimacy between partners. Moreover, many people come into marriage counseling due to a crisis and experience high levels of distress. Marriage counseling has been shown to significantly help decrease stress levels for couples. Finally, unless the positive effects of marriage counseling last, what good is it? Even after two years, a study concluded that the beneficial results of marital therapy remained.

While these studies focus on the concept of couples counseling as a whole, without explicitly exploring online couples counseling, they certainly do provide optimism regarding its possible efficacy. While no major studies exist that directly focus on online counseling for married couples, one study does clearly conclude that couples participating on online therapy experience a greater sense of control and comfort and find the sessions to be beneficial and positive.

Online Marriage Counseling Can Prevent Divorce

If you look at the reasons why marriage counseling may not work, it usually has little to do with the counseling itself. Yes, sometimes a therapist may be unqualified to provide marital therapy but most of the factors are related to long-standing issues that reside within the relationship. Those problems notwithstanding, it is clear that online marriage counseling, much like in-person counseling, can help with many marital issues and reverse problems that lead to divorce.

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MS Broudy is a psychologist, writer, and consultant. He has a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and a master’s degree in Social Psychology. He has spent over 20 years providing therapy and assessment services for a diverse set of clients. MS specializes in writing about mental health, parenting, and wellness. He has his own blog, mentalspokes.com, where he writes about psychological issues.
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