Have you ever thought you’re somehow sabotaging yourself? Or: has anyone ever mentioned that something you do might be considered self-sabotaging behavior? Whichever the case, there’s some value in taking a closer look at how such actions form and what can be done to change them before they take complete control over your everyday life.
Patterns of this kind can seem ordinary once they first appear, even natural, even inherent to a person. But – they’re no good (and you’ll see why). One must understand the triggers behind self-sabotaging behaviors to reopen the possibility for conscious decision-making. To set oneself free.
What’s Considered Self-Sabotaging Behavior?
Self-sabotaging behavior simply means that a person’s own actions are constantly interfering with intimate or professional objectives, usually in ways that are a bit difficult to decipher and recognize at first.
This kind of behaviour emerges through avoidance, through numbing distractions, through harmful habits that create damage over time: chronic procrastination, excessive use and abuse of various mind-numbing substances, patterns of unhealthy eating, or acts that cause physical harm to oneself.
In many cases, the individual behaving in a self-sabotaging manner doesn’t fully link it to the harm such behaviour produces. Even when the connection has been made, there can be a strange tendency to repeat the behavior. It’s as if the mind’s refusing to rewrite its own code.
Self-sabotaging behavior means a person’s actions keep getting in the way of personal or professional goals.
The Psychological Triggers Behind Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
The psychological triggers behind self-sabotaging behaviors are doing their work in our subconscious, in that lower two-thirds of the iceberg. The following sections will show you different forms these triggers can take.
The Psychology of Substance Abuse and Self-Sabotaging Behavior
Once substance use has begun to function as a coping mechanism, self-sabotage takes on a chemical edge. The body and mind adapt quickly and firmly to the temporary relief, and that makes it increasingly difficult to stop behaving in such a harmful manner. In these cases, it is vital to recognize relapse warning signs on time as they become critical indicators of when self-sabotage has reached a dangerous stage. Small changes in mood, routine, or thought patterns can be enough to signal an impending return to substance abuse.
Substance-related self-sabotage is usually woven into other destructive habits. Breaking this vicious cycle requires both physical withdrawal management and the psychological unlearning of the connection between distress and consumption. In other words, combining substance abuse treatment with psychological therapy is essential in this context.
The Tiring Burden of Low Self-Worth
Self-sabotaging behavior frequently comes from low self-worth. On a daily level, decisions are made with the assumption that failure or disappointment is inevitable. Individuals who battle low self-esteem will often avoid opportunities that require them to risk or place their trust in others, and this avoidance will only reinforce the belief that those opportunities were actually never attainable. This, of course, leads to underachievement, even deliberate withdrawal from situations that could offer genuine personal progress.
Fear Disguised as Caution
Internal fears don’t always introduce themselves as what they really are. Sometimes they’ll appear as careful planning, excessive worry, which might seem pretty rational on the surface. However, beneath that layer is an unwillingness to step into the field of uncertainty, even when the risk is minimal and the potential outcome is by all means positive.
In this form, self-sabotage likes to hide behind logic; it convinces the individual that more time, more information, or more readiness is exactly what’s needed, all while opportunities are slipping away, one by one, never to come back.
The Weight of Unresolved Conflict
Unresolved conflict – internal or external – will sustain self-sabotaging behavior in ways that are both direct and subtle. The energy you’ve spent avoiding confrontation will often be redirected into distraction or harmful coping mechanisms. For instance, a person might begin overcommitting to work, or they’ll engage in compulsive behaviors, or immerse themselves in habits that provide temporary relief but erode stability over time (substance abuse).
Confronting the underlying issue, whether it involves communication with others or honest self-reflection, should remove the source of tension and reduce the need for damaging escapes.
Habit Loops Without Conscious Consent
Some self-sabotaging behaviors are sustained almost entirely by repetition. Once a pattern has become automatic, the original reason for it may fade, yet the action continues out of sheer familiarity. This creates a cycle where the habit operates without deliberate choice. The habit maintains itself even when its negative influence is all too clear.
To break these loops, an individual will have to replace the automatic behavior with another action that satisfies the same need, without causing harm. This will require consistent practice and a willingness to tolerate discomfort while the new habit has taken root.
Practice Self-Care and Find Adequate Help
Self-care – when viewed as an active process rather than a form of passive indulgence – can work as both prevention and intervention for self-sabotaging behavior. This usually means creating certain non-negotiable routines that support physical health, or setting boundaries that protect emotional stability, or allowing oneself some time for reflection before committing to new obligations.
Additionally, some professionals offer techniques that are difficult to generate alone. Their aim is not to make a person dependent on therapy, but to strengthen the skills required to identify and address harmful patterns before they’ve entrenched themselves again.
What’s Behind Self-Sabotaging Behavior – A Conclusion
Self-sabotaging behavior takes on many forms. Each of these is driven by its own set of psychological triggers. By figuring out the triggers behind self-sabotaging behaviors – whether they’re firmly rooted in fear, habit, low self-worth, or substance use – you’ll get to enjoy the opportunity to step in before these harmful patterns have cemented themselves. (Keep in mind, though: awareness without action won’t really mean much; to change something, action is necessary.)
Each choice to interrupt the pattern makes the next interruption easier, thus creating a path that will eventually become more familiar than the one you’ve been used to.
Sources
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- Boyes, A. B. (2018, May 16). How to stop Sabotaging Yourself. Greater Good. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_stop_sabotaging_yourself
- Thompson, D. R. (2017). Impulsivity and Self-Sabotaging Behavior: A Case study. Texila International Journal of Psychology, 2(2), 1–6. https://doi.org/10.21522/tijpy.2016.02.02.art001