split attraction
split attraction

What is the Split Attraction Model?

According to the split attraction model, how someone experiences attraction can be split into categories. For some people romantic and sexual attraction are distinctly different experiences. The split attraction model recognizes that…


altruism
altruism

Does Altruism Make You Happy

The English Oxford Dictionary defines altruism as “selfless concern for the well-being of others.”  Altruism encompasses caring and kindness without the expectation of anything in return.  Perhaps not always overtly visible, but…


confirmation bias
confirmation bias

Be Honest, Do You Have Confirmation Bias?

Confirmation bias is the tendency people have so search for and interpret information in such a way that it endorses their thoughts and belief system. Simply put, people allow their biases to…


microagression
microagression

The Subtlety of Microaggressions 

Microaggressions can describe behaviors or comments that was subtle, inflict insult or injury on individuals, based on their identity with a certain group. It is a term to describe brief and common…


jealousy
jealousy

How Jealousy can Ruin Your Relationship

Jealousy is a common challenge in intimate relationships. While the impact of jealousy can range in intensity and severity, it is damaging and will lead to disconnection.  Jealousy can be insidious, as…


ethical monogamy
ethical monogamy

What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?

While some cultural standards have idealized the goal of finding that one person to marry and spend eternity with, it appears that this is harder than it looks. Research continues to show…


make friends
make friends

20 Questions to Get to Know People

Small talk tends to bore people. It’s a series of superficial comments that tend to make participants lose interest in the conversation. When you’re ready to make an impact, skip the weather,…


pansexual
pansexual

What Does Pansexual Mean?

Sexuality is something people experience on a continuum. It is something that can fluctuate for many people and each individual goes on their own journey to discover their own sexuality. Sexuality is…


halo effect
halo effect

What is the Halo Effect?

Social psychologists have long studied the ways people think about and interact with others, due to the fascinating ways our brains can affect our relationships. These researchers and theorists have found that…


gaslighting
gaslighting

What You Need to Know About Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a term used to describe a manipulative tactic where a person causes someone to question their own sanity. The term comes from a movie where the husband manipulates his wife’s…


verbal abuse
verbal abuse

How to Recognize Verbal Abuse

Verbal abuse often goes unnoticed and unrecognized. It is more subtle than physical abuse yet can cause similar emotional damage.  Verbal abuse can occur in any relationship:  home, spousal, friendships, or work.…


missing ex
missing ex

Why Do I Miss My Ex?

Relationships should come with a rule book, or at least with a comprehensive “how to” guide.  It would be quite helpful to refer back to an all-knowing relationship manual when faced with…


overbearing mother
overbearing mother

Let’s Understand Serial Monogamy

Monogamy in and of itself is often considered a positive, desirable attribute of a relationship in western culture. It is when two people commit to date or marry each other, without having…


emotional abuse
emotional abuse

What is Emotional Abuse? And How Can it Effect You?

Abuse has been defined as referring to “harmful or injurious treatment of another human being that may include physical, sexual, verbal, psychological/emotional, intellectual, or spiritual maltreatment”.  While more physical forms of abuse…


genetic attraction
genetic attraction

Is Genetic Sexual Attraction a Real Thing?

Genetic sexual attraction refers to the notion that a powerful sexual attraction can develop between blood relatives that initially meet as adults.  This type of reunion could result from family members who…


overbearing mother
overbearing mother

How to Survive an Overbearing Mother

Mothers are fiercely protective and use their intuition and maternal instincts to guide and nurture their young.  Mothers attempt to teach their children survival mechanisms so that they can be fully functioning,…


intj
intj

Understanding the INTJ Personality Type

You may have heard of the Myers-Briggs personality type assessment before. It is a helpful tool to use in understanding yourself and others. There are four pairs that make up the personality…


guilt trip
guilt trip

Why Should You Resist Guilt Tripping?

There’s one simple answer to the question, “Why Should You Resist Guilt Tripping?” and it goes like this: “Because guilt-tripping is entrapment, a manipulative effort to control the guilt-tripped person.” Despite the…


sociopath
sociopath

Traits of a High-Functioning Sociopath

A sociopath refers to a person with anti-social personality disorder.  When one hears the term sociopath, visions of serial killers, assassins, and criminals immediately come to mind.  This frame of reference can…


dating ptsd
dating ptsd

Dating Someone Who Struggles With PTSD

Dating is hard. It’s hard enough to find someone that you can connect with, have similar interests, ideals, and values with, and someone you’re attracted to! Adding medical and mental health conditions…


isolation
isolation

Social Isolation and Seeking Help

Human beings have an innate need to connect with others.  Psychological research has consistently demonstrated that there is a significant linkage between a person’s connection to others and to physical, psychological, and…


platonic relationships
platonic relationships

Do Platonic Relationships Actually Exist?

There are likely many skeptics when it comes to the idea of platonic relationships being possible. In the popular TV show Friends, the group discusses flirting. The women believe they can flirt…


family
family

Family: They’ve Got You, Babe

Throughout time, family connection has been a huge part of the human condition; sustaining close, personal relationships with those you have genetic ties with has helped people understand themselves and the way…


peter pan syndrome
peter pan syndrome

How to Treat Peter Pan Syndrome

Peter Pan is a cultural figure about a boy who never grows up. He represents the fantasy that most people have at some point about not having to mature and deal with…


best friends
best friends

Best Friendship Quotes

Feel yourself smile as you read the quotes below, culled from age-old troves of friendship quotation treasuries and last-minute memes. Some of these remarks will cheer you up. Others will make you…


dysfunctional family
dysfunctional family

What is a Dysfunctional Family?

The descriptor of “dysfunctional family” is used broadly without a clear definition.  The term dysfunction suggests that something is broken or clearly not functioning properly.  While there is a continuum of severity,…


muscle ache
muscle ache

7 Tips for Dealing with Frustration

Frustration is an emotion everyone can relate to. However, it is an emotion that is pretty vague. Are you exasperated, upset, disappointment, let down, irritated, or perturbed? Being frustrated leaves a lot…


love yourself
love yourself

How to Love Yourself

As we grow, we meet various milestones in our lives, from learning how to walk and talk, learning fundamentals about the world, and going through puberty, all in the ultimate goal of…