Parents, bosses, lovers, spouses, neighbors, fellow commuters, in-laws and outlaws, even other people, all provide us with long-term relationships. And some of us need help to deal with them.
Counseling is called for when you or your life seem to be stuck in a rut, one day feels no different from another, and/or you’re eager to get past a specific problem. The first thing you’ll need to do with your therapist is to figure out what’s wrong, with whom and why. Then you can explore the possibilities for repairing problems and preventing new ones.
Speaking of difficult relationships, ask yourself “How does a narcissist change a light bulb?” The answer is “He or she just holds it in place and the world revolves around him or her.” You can play light bulb jokes until Kingdom Come, identifying the difficulties with any relationship but you’ll still need to find the guide to get you through it safely.
Online counseling is one way to cope with troubling long-term relationships (though they might become short term if good sense points in that direction). The health of any relationship can be defined between you and your therapist, but it comes down to one basic idea: Are you better off with or without the relationship?
Cybertherapy in comparison to face-to-face counseling is not necessarily a better-worse reality. The two types of consultation are different, and it can take some effort on your part to adjust to either of them. Finding your online counselor can take time just as it would in the physical world, but it’s a necessary investment in your improving future. You can choose to be flexible about how long it will take to find, then to become comfortable with the analyst you choose. It’s a new, therapeutic relationship. It requires adjustments on your part, just as every relationship does.
Need to know how to find a good therapist in the digital world? Ask people you trust for insights, check out online therapy/counseling sites plus the credentials of the practitioners, and follow your gut. When you feel safe you probably are. When you feel uncertain, either give things a specific time frame to work out or keep looking for the shrink you need.
Yocheved Golani is a popular writer whose byline has appeared worldwide in print and online. A certified Health Information Management professional, she is a member of Get Help Israel. Certified in Spiritual Chaplaincy (End of Life issues) and in counseling skills, her life coaching for ill people puts healthy perspective into a clients’ success plan for achieving desired goals.