Feel yourself smile as you read the quotes below, culled from age-old troves of friendship quotation treasuries and last-minute memes. Some of these remarks will cheer you up. Others will make you think more deeply about the meaning of best friendship.
“Best friends are people who make your problems their problems, just so you won’t have to go through them alone.”
“One measure of friendship consists not in the number of things that that friends can discuss, but in the things that they no longer need mention.”
“Best friends show you sunshine where you once saw only clouds. They’re people who believe in you, until you do, too.”
“Having a soulmate is not always about marriage. You can find a soulmate in a friendship, too.”
Those quotes hold many life lessons. Ponder them awhile and see how many you can list.
In the classic tale To Kill a Mockingbird, readers learn a profound lesson about life and friendship when the characters discuss the morality about how the birds, symbolic for the kind-hearted, friendly but defenseless people in the story, are to be treated: “Mockingbirds don’t do one thing but make music for us to enjoy. Mockingbirds don’t eat up people’s gardens, don’t nest in corncribs, they don’t do one thing but sing their hearts out for us. That’s why it’s a sin to kill a mockingbird.”
In other words, treat your friends as the treasures they are. Don’t abuse them, nor allow anyone to abuse them either.
Lighthearted thoughts go with best friendships, too. The meme that announces “Friends buy you food. Best friends eat it,” lets us laugh at the truth in this observation. There’s more humor to come with “A friend would ask your crush if s/he likes you. A best friend would push you into each other.”
Past life regression expert Dr. Brian Weiss teaches that “Unconditional love asks for nothing in return. It never creates debts, dependencies, or obligations. It simply exists. It is an unending, pure energy that transcends death and connects all loved ones throughout eternity.” Best friends provide such love.
Ambrose Bierce, author of The Devil’s Dictionary, opined that “Friendship is a ship big enough to carry two in fair weather, but only one in foul.” Some of us need to remember all those times that our besties sailed on when we failed to measure up, and then turned around to re-join us after we improved our character.
As I tell my life coaching clients, “Friendship is when the silence between two people is comfortable. Best friendship is when that silence is healing. “
Those of us who give each other the time needed to regain our composure, to prioritize our values, and to remember what’s truly worthwhile in life are best friends.