There’s a lot of truth in Katy B’s Crying for No Reason song. Normal people sometimes bury their concerns in the backs of their minds, where ideas percolate until they turn into tears rolling down your face. Hormonal shifts can cause the problem, too. Fatigue can cause unexpected tears, as can depression or enduing anxiety. The recovery process after a loss such the death of a loved one, a job, or a home can leave you crying unexpectedly. So can moving to a new country, city or neighborhood where you don’t know how to meet your needs. We can’t always get as much sleep as we need; parents of newborns know all about that. And, sometimes we have to wait until we figure out how to master some situation or other. Until then, life hurts and we cry when we least expect to. Let’s look at how to reduce the pain from several angles.
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Another way to dry your tears is to face problems forthrightly. Yes, you can decide to spend time thinking quietly or discussing the issues with someone insightful, even with the person involved in the problem causing you to cry until you arrive at solutions. By identifying the problems and realizing their causes, you can plan to minimize, prevent, or end the factors that result in crying for no reason.
Highly sensitive people (HSP) and empaths can cry by sensing other people’s emotions. They feel overwhelmed because they haven’t realized that they themselves don’t feel like that. Traditional psychiatry is increasingly recognizing the realities of HSP and empathic people, and no longer labeling them as depressed, neurotic or otherwise mentally ill. They simply have sensitive souls that need a mental health discipline to remain somewhat detached from the moods, wished and mindsets of the people around them.
Weeping when you encounter a happy moment is not a problem; it is the expression of “I lack the words to say what I feel.” You’re not actually crying without reason; you’re expressing happiness in a valid way. Professor Oriana Aragon and her Yale University research team discovered this in 2014, though many people in everyday life had recognized the reality long before then. Aragon’s team realized that “crying for no reason” is a misnomer. It’s a way of restoring balance to the emotional life in your mind. Many of us already know that people cry tears of relief when they learn that someone feared hurt in an accident is actually fine.
Tears connect people in emotional ways, signaling that someone needs help, sympathy or is authentic with their expressions of emotions. The next time that you or someone else cry for no apparent reason, you can assure yourselves that nothing is “wrong” per se, only very touching.
Yocheved Golani is a popular writer whose byline has appeared worldwide in print and online. A certified Health Information Management professional, she is a member of Get Help Israel. Certified in Spiritual Chaplaincy (End of Life issues) and in counseling skills, her life coaching for ill people puts healthy perspective into a clients’ success plan for achieving desired goals.