“Melancholy can’t be disappointed and sometimes will be happily surprised.” Whoever said that knew a wonderful insight: Mindsets matter.
Some people are addicted to melancholy aka negativity or depression. They seem to experience a sense of victory at making everyone around them miserable, or they crave the attention that unhappiness brings on. Biological chemistry might have a part in persistent unhappiness, but it needn’t ruin a person’s life. Medications and cognitive therapy can improve quality of life for depressed, melancholic people. So can making positive choices and taking positive actions.
As this BBC article indicates, sadness can be a matter of physiological reality. But science has proven many times over that such realities are reversible with superb nutrition, regular exercise, rewarding hobbies, spiritual goals (being better than ever one day to the next, or gradually, over a period of time, helping to improve someone else’s life rather than over-focusing on yours, etc.). There’s another way to overcome melancholy, humor.
The benefit of melancholy is that it prompts a person into introspection. Melancholics think deeply about emotions, relationships, life at large and the meaning of it all. That sort of thinking leads to:
- Heightened awareness/sensitivity,
- Analytical breakdowns of situations and realizations about what to do about them, Out of the Box solutions sometimes become a melancholic person’s default setting. They can be quite creative in problem-solving.
- Increased commitment and loyalty to people and/or to goals.
A melancholic person might also develop ever-increasing patience for tasks and trying situations. They develop productive routines and remarks which serve them and other people well.
Empathic aka highly insightful people tend to experience melancholy. The mental health world debates the “What came first” realities involved, but psychiatrist Dr. Judith Orloff has researched and written extensively on the matter. Read any of her books or online remarks for deep insights into empathic people and some of their melancholic realities.
If you want to speed up your departure from a melancholic mindset and to exchange it for positive point of view, seek out a therapist who can help you with the task. Mental health professionals are standing by.
Yocheved Golani is a popular writer whose byline has appeared worldwide in print and online. A certified Health Information Management professional, she is a member of Get Help Israel. Certified in Spiritual Chaplaincy (End of Life issues) and in counseling skills, her life coaching for ill people puts healthy perspective into a clients’ success plan for achieving desired goals.