Majority of the time we find excuses for why things turned out the way they did. I fell asleep and forgot to turn on the dishwasher; I didn’t practice piano because I had to do my homework. At the end of the day we can find an excuse for everything, but ultimately your life is made up of your choices. This includes your mood. You can choose to wake up in the morning with a smile and a positive attitude or you can choose to wake up grumpy with a frown on your face. It is all in your hands.
First of all, we need to stop complaining about what we don’t have and start being grateful for what we do have. With so much competition in the world we could be the sore losers and complain about how we didn’t get what we want or we can take the horse by the reigns and learn from what went wrong and how we can better be prepared for next time around. Look on the bright side. Train yourself to maintain a positive outlook and you will see immediate mood changes. Once your mood change, it will affect those around you in a positive way creating more happiness in the world. Remember to appreciate the little things.
Secondly we all worry way too much. If we just thought a little less about ‘what if’ and focused on the present we could enjoy our lives more rather than worrying about the future. We don’t know the future. So, why choose to only focus on negative possibilities? Don’t let the moments pass you by. Spend the quality time together you have been dreaming of instead of worrying about how you are going to get to work tomorrow.
Focus on the inside, not the outside. So many people focus on materialism and what they are lacking. But if you focus, not only on the things you have, but the quality of life you are living you will see how great you truly have it. If our happiness depends on the external we will never be happy. Stop trying to change the external and focus on the internal.
Take incremental steps to make a positive change in your life. Work towards a goal each and every day. Whether it may be small or big, when you achieve something you feel accomplishment which motivates you to continue forward.
Give. The more you give to others the more satisfied you feel with yourself. Whether it is giving to your spouse, or children, or parents, or even the mailman. Be thoughtful and do unto others what you would want to be done to you. On the other hand it is also important to receive. Know when it is important to take the help you are being offered, whether on a project or just with taking care of everyday household needs. Remember that the act of receiving allows other people the experience of giving.
Surround yourself with people who want the same things as you. When you all are working towards the same goal you experience the feeling of unity which binds you together in happiness. Cherish these people. Appreciate all they do for you. Most importantly continue to encourage them to be who they want to be, and spread the happiness.
Chose the life you want. Set aside time for yourself each and every day to relax and do something that you want to do. Take care of yourself. When you take time for yourself, you are more appreciative of your surroundings, rather than when you overwork yourself you feel grouchy and annoyed. Choose to be more present in your daily life. To enjoy your friends, family, and job. Make a change for the better. Take steps each and every day towards a better, happy life. It’s your choice. Choose optimism. Choose positivity. Choose happiness.
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Eric Silver has been helping a close family member learn to cope with depression for nearly twenty years. Over the years, he’s developed a passion for mental health awareness. Mr. Silver has researched and written extensively within the mental health area, specifically in regard to bi-polar, depression, stress, and anxiety issues.