Connection Between Charisma and Happiness

May 31, 2019
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Charisma can be equated to magical fairy dust.  Both are shiny, sparkly, and instantaneously capture attention.  When the fairy godmother flicked her magic wand, Cinderella illuminated in shimmery silver sparkle and Bippity, Boppity, Boom, a magical ball gown appeared.  Charisma has that same type of magical quality—you cannot miss it when it walks into a room.  Charisma draws attention and keeps one captivated for hours.  It has a special dreamlike quality that keeps you transfixed and focused on just one person.  You hang onto their every word, gesture, and laugh.  They walk to the other side of the room and you find yourself moving along with them.  And when charisma leaves the room, a light seems to go along with them.  Cinderella, fairy tales, and magical fairy dust are definitively linked to happiness, but what about charisma?

A person with charisma is captivating and commands attention.  Their words are important and people hang onto each and every one and treat them as gospel.  They are often skillful in the way that they string words together, which makes their messages powerful.  Their words tend to have a strong influence on others, just because they are the ones speaking them.  They have the ability to alter moods and to shift perspectives.  They foster an environment of trust and leave a lasting impact on others.  They are influential in motivation and in providing inspiration to those who are seeking it.  

Perhaps more important than a person’s words can be the way that a person’s words make us feel.  A charismatic person is commonly described as having the capability to make you feel as if you are the only person on the planet.  They make you feel important, worthwhile, and valued.  They are able to ignore distraction and put their attention primarily on you.  This type of attention goes a long way in making somebody feel heard, respected, and treasured.  Charisma allows somebody to be truly present in the moment, which is often a rarity in this day and age of technology and social media.

 A charismatic individual has a deep capacity for empathy and has the innate ability to see things from somebody else’s glass slippers.  They are fantastic listeners and engage others with their powerful eye contact.  Someone who is charismatic portrays enthusiasm and exudes great confidence, especially when speaking. 

Charisma paves the way for powerful connections, which fosters strong relationships and friendships.  As we all know, healthy and supportive relationships are one of the greatest predictors of a person’s happiness and emotional well-being.  Strong relationships are an important buffer to life’s stressors and disappointments.  When thought of in this way, charisma and happiness are inherently linked through the quality of relationships that are formed. 

Charismatic people often have strong self-esteem and high levels of self-confidence.  This quality alone can preserve happiness as one is not constantly questioning themselves, criticizing their actions, or putting themselves down.  Charismatic people also experience happiness by helping and guiding others.  They experience a sense of satisfaction for positively impacting somebody else’s life.

So, the answer is yes.  Charisma is linked to happiness much in the same way as Cinderella, fairy tales, and magical fairy dust.  Cinderella herself was a very charismatic personality, who was clearly revered by the mice, birds, and household pets.  When she walked into the ballroom, she immediately captured the prince’s attention and as they danced, it was as if they were the only ones in the palace.  She was influential as someone who had the strength and confidence to overcome adversity.  Perhaps her charisma strengthened the magical, fairy-tale qualities of the story.  Either way, they all ended happily ever after.               

Tracy is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is a clinical supervisor for the Community YMCA, Counseling & Social Services branch. Tracy has over 12 years of experience working in many settings including partial care hospitalization and intensive outpatient programs, community agencies, group practice, and school-based programs. Tracy works with clients of all ages, but especially enjoys working with the adolescents. Tracy  facilitates groups using art therapy, sand play and psychodrama.