As a Christian counselor, my office is bombarded with a barrage of people who come to a place where life looks dim. Some often ask questions like why is this happening to me, especially since I am a Christian totally sold out to God. I guess their question becomes “why me”. I flip the coin by asking “why not you”. The Bible gives an onslaught of examples who were probably wondering why God chose to afflict them when they were serving Him with all their hearts. Naomi lost her husband and two sons (Ruth 1:1-4); Job lost his family and everything he owned (Job 1:13-22); David had to run for his life from wicked King Saul for 7-10 years (1 Samuel 21) and the list goes on and on. However, in each case they came forth unscathed and God got the glory.
I wrote a book in 2013 called “Weapons for Victory: Memoirs of a Perfect Storm”. This book depicted my life story in the most vivid way I knew how to tell it. It expressed some controversial issues that I went through in weathering the storms of life. The problem is when life looks dim, especially behind the walls of the sophisticated church, many prefer to pretend all is well, in hopes that it will eventually go away. Whether we want to admit it or not, life has the potential of becoming dim, even for those who walk wholeheartedly with God.
The Bible gives countless promises for the one going through difficult situations and wondering “why me”. It says “Cast your burden on the Lord [release it] and He will sustain and uphold you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken (slip, fall, fail).” (Psalm 55:22). In Psalm 147:3 it says “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds [healing their pain and comforting their sorrow].” Romans 8:28 declares “And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.” The icing on the cake for the believer whose life looks dim is “And not only this, but [with joy] let us exult in our sufferings and rejoice in our hardships, knowing that hardship (distress, pressure, trouble) produces patient endurance; and endurance, proven character (spiritual maturity); and proven character, hope and confident assurance [of eternal salvation]. Such hope [in God’s promises] never disappoints us, because God’s love has been abundantly poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
These and so many other verses give credence to the fact that no matter how dim like may seem, God is a healer and restorer and He never makes a mistake. Are you suffering loss, hurt, grief, divorce, illness, heart break, or all the above? Know that God did not forget about you, but wants to grow you. Thus, He desires that His children rejoice through these hard times in an effort to gain tenacity and strength. It’s time to rise to the occasion, embrace your dimness, stop looking back and use your affliction to pay it forward. Believe it or not there is a message in your mess and you are the only one who can orchestrate change. When I wrote my story “Weapons for Victory: Memoirs of a Perfect Storm”, I utilized my uncomfortable journey to bring comfort to others. In essence, your mess can become the catalyst for changing other people’s lives. Embrace your good, bad, ugly and dim as part of your anointing for greatness.
Sharon holds a Bachelor of Science Degree in Organizational Management, a Master of Science Degree in Counseling, graduating Suma Cum Laude, and a Doctorate in Biblical Counseling/Studies, graduating with honors. She is currently pursuing an EdD from Concordia University. Dr. Sharon is the author of six books. She is a licensed pastoral counselor and an ordained minister. Dr. Sharon has been an adjunct professor for the past ten years at Indian River State College and Palm Beach Atlantic University. She covered under the FIRM in Pensacola, Fl.