I am in the process of writing a book entitled Detours to Destiny, and it has made me cognizant of the fact that the mistakes we make, which I choose to call detours, sometimes cause us to wonder if there is something wrong with us. In the Christian venue we see people all around us and for the most part when we ask the simple question how are you, we get profound answers like “blessed and highly favored”, “God is good”, “wonderfully blessed”, “the joy of the Lord is my strength” and the list goes on. These terminologies leaves the person going from detour to detour wondering “is there something wrong with me”, am I even normal, and sometimes questioning if they even know the Lord at all. However, I believe, like the children of Israel, these detours infiltrate our lives as a result of disobedience and when we learn to truly obey God it sets us in a place of truly embracing our promised land.
In looking at the question of whether something is wrong I would venture to investigate Deuteronomy 28 which speaks explicitly about blessings and curses. It would seem that in order to embrace the blessings we must break the curses that Satan has used to keep us in bondage, thus leaving us with the question: “Is there something wrong with me?” Verses 1-3 of Deuteronomy 28 says “Now it shall be, if you diligently listen to and obey the voice of the Lord your God, being careful to do all of His commandments which I am commanding you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations of the earth. 2 All these blessings will come upon you and overtake you if you pay attention to the voice of the Lord your God. 3 “You will be blessed in the city, and you will be blessed in the field.” This sounds like a perfect plan, however, on the heels of it comes the flip side in verses 15 and 20 which declares “if you do not listen to and obey the voice of the Lord your God, being careful to do all His commandments and His statutes which I am commanding you today, then all these curses will come upon you and overtake you”: which is followed by a list of curses and culminates with “The Lord will send upon you curses, confusion, and rebuke in everything that you undertake to do, until you are destroyed, perishing quickly because of the evil of your deeds, because you have turned away from Me.”
The word that stands out in that whole scenario of curses is confusion which leads us to the question of whether something is truly wrong with us. As a Christian counselor I am privy to countless clients asking this question as a result of the detours and mistakes that lead them to my office. I am able to walk them through the process of gradually removing the blinders set my Satan to snare them into thinking they are abnormal Christians. I remind them of the armor given to them in Ephesians 6 that when utilized, fortifies them for every attack of the enemy.
The Christian, walking in obedience to God, should never ask “is there something wrong with me”, because we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). However, to keep in step with the plans God has for us we must rethink the patterns threaded through our journey, in an effort to relinquish the detours and mistakes that seek to cripple us. The question then becomes “what do I do with the things placed in my hands to assure that all is right with me?”
Sharon holds a Bachelor of Science Degree in Organizational Management, a Master of Science Degree in Counseling, graduating Suma Cum Laude, and a Doctorate in Biblical Counseling/Studies, graduating with honors. She is currently pursuing an EdD from Concordia University. Dr. Sharon is the author of six books. She is a licensed pastoral counselor and an ordained minister. Dr. Sharon has been an adjunct professor for the past ten years at Indian River State College and Palm Beach Atlantic University. She covered under the FIRM in Pensacola, Fl.