self-confidence

How to Improve Your Sense of Self

Some of us wander around, wondering how and why other people seem confident. Where does self-assurance come from? How is it developed? And how do other people get past feeling self-conscious, inadequate,…

control your thoughts

Tips to Control Too Many Intrusive Thoughts

Dr. Abraham Low’s ground-breaking Mental Health Through Will Training book in 1950 taught readers that thinking too much about a given problem is called “processing.” It’s a matter of overthinking rather than…

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How the Arts Can Improve Your Mind

The statement that “The evidence is clear — playing a musical instrument or listening to music can positively affect brain health and function. … Music can improve mood, increase intelligence, enhance learning and concentration, and ward off the effects of brain aging…” makes an…

Thinking outside the box

How to Think Out of the Box

TV character Columbo outsmarted the bad guys by posing as a déclassé doofus. He collected clues, studied the facial expressions and body language of his increasingly impatient or befuddled suspects, and came…

forming new habits

How to Make Habits Stick

Here’s a thought: Make it easier to be productive than to procrastinate. You might have seen happiness researcher Shawn Achor on TEDTalks. He’s engaging, funny, and an expert in how to form…

feeling young

Feeling Younger Can Reverse the Clock

“Young at heart” is a mindset plus a prescription for youthful appearance and health despite the person’s chronological age. Choosing to remain youthful is part of that prescription; an active choice renewed…

self care

Self-Care: Why it Matters

We’re all familiar with someone who simply wore themselves out with too much psychological and/or physical stress. The problem is preventable, but only if the person at risk is willing to prevent…

negativity

Dealing with Difficult People

What’s the difference between those astonishingly polite people who respond politely despite someone’s rudeness, stubbornness, refusal to get a life, or even their refusal to learn from the information all around them,…

upset kid

Parental Alienation Syndrome

Among the most painful consequences of divorce or marital discord, parental alienation syndrome (PAS) is the victimization of children by a manipulative parent. They, and their cohorts in the crime of convincing…

bitter girl

How to be Better not Bitter

You might find it boring, irritating, or mysterious, but “Choose to be better, not bitter,” is a meaningful maxim. It’s about making a decision that the events in your life will not…

depression

No Motivation & Depression: Is There a Link?

Medical and psychological materials note that there’s often a clear link between depression and a loss of motivation. If you’re in the “no motivation” mood, the thoughts below might clear up the…

Human Trafficking

Mental Health and Human Trafficking

“The world’s oldest profession” is a euphemism for prostitution. Human trafficking is the politically correct term for pimping victims into the prostitution trade. Whoring, prostituting, sex trafficking, sex work, no matter what…

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Anxiety from A-Z

Fast Company’s Eating the Frog Won’t Boost Productivity article illustrates why it is smart to deal with an anxiety instead of overriding it. We tend to solve unpleasant problems with sensible behavior,…

grief or depression

Is it Grief or Depression?

Grief is the reaction to a loss. It subsides over time. We might never feel complete relief for that loss, but being wistful for someone or something is not the same as…

recovering from grief

Recovering from Grief

Grief is powerful whether you’ve broken up with someone or lost them to death. Missing much-desired goals such as being accepted into a specific college, job or achievement can result in the…

definition of addiction

Accidental Addiction

The 1982 memoir, I’m Dancing as Fast as I Can by Barbara Gordon, was a ground-breaking revelation. The public learned that well-meaning people and their perfectly decent doctors can unintentionally nurture an addiction.…

relationships

Relationships for Life, a How-to

Some of us feel more comfortable with people who share our backgrounds and beliefs, even our personality traits. Many friends grow up in similar circumstances, and that helps them to understand and…

stop the stress

Stop the Stress Before it Stops You!

The two major keys to getting along with family, friends and anyone else are self-control and self-confidence. These intentionally developed character traits let a person respond to stress, not to merely react…

Role playing

A Mental Health Minute

Here’s a can-do solution for those times when life seems to suck all the mental health out of you: Spend a minute reflecting on how you’d be proud to handle a problem…

addiction uninstalling

New Developments for Dealing with Addiction

The following announcement appeared on Twitter on May 17, 2018: “The American Health Information Management Association is asking Congress to pass two proposed bills to prevent patient overdoses by giving physicians more…

Putting Grief into Nurturing Perspective

Putting Grief into Nurturing Perspective

Although grief involves a sense of agonizing, inescapable anguish, different people might describe it as a sense of dejection or despair, too. Distress, heartache, heartbreak, misery, physical and emotional pain, sadness, sorrow,…